We all have our own choices, wishes and needs when it comes to childbirth. However, there is one familiar theme that will run through every single woman’s labour story. The one stable factor that will in some way or another be involved in a woman’s experience of pregnancy and labour. Whether you have had an easy or hard pregnancy, stressful or carefree, whether you had a home birth, a hospital birth, a walk in the park birth or the most difficult birth. You will always remember your midwife.
Your midwife will always have a huge part to play in your story of pregnancy and labour, a small place in your heart, in the place where you hold the fondness or raw experience of what is such a special time.
With both of my pregnancies I had the same midwife. I loved her, and it made it even more special the second time round. With my labour, I went into the process with an open mind, not a birth plan in sight but with a strong emphasis on doing what was best for my baby. What I didn’t know the first time round, was the importance of the midwife throughout my whole birth experience.
From the first meeting, I knew my midwife would be there for me, as well as my baby. Working with my needs and wants.
With my first labour, as I stood with my arms around Mike’s neck (not strangling him, I must clarify), swaying side to side with nothing but breathing techniques that I had not practiced, my midwife gently touched my shoulders and said…
“Relax your shoulders… breathe longer on the out breath”
Those simple words will stick with me because I was beginning to tense up and I was feeling the pain more since I had gone into hospital. Those words, helped me to relax back into my self-taught breathing and stay with the labour for longer than I would have on my own. That was the moment I knew I was in safe hands.
So to you, my wonderful midwife, I hope the chocolates and card went a little way in showing how special you made me feel. You made the difference when I needed it.
I read recently that 1 out of 3 midwives feel under appreciated. One third of midwives. It made me wonder, how can we make a difference to that? I mean, I can’t pay them higher wages, nor give them extra time. But what I can do is show my appreciation. We can universally agree that they all play such a huge role in the birth and development of our children, right? We all know a little thank you can go a long way, and with so many midwives feeling underappreciated I want to encourage you to thank your midwife.
I wonder how your midwife made a difference to your pregnancy/ birth plan/story? How did you say thank you? Or did she/he have to run off to the next woman rushing in through the doors?
This Christmas I have teamed up with the team at Pampers who are dedicated to the long-term support of midwifes in the UK. They are asking mums and dads across the nation to thank their midwife for the amazing job they did to help bring their little one into the world. For every single #ThankYouMidwife shared, Pampers will donate £1 to the Royal College of Midwives Trust, which will be used to support midwives in need through the festive season and beyond.
So, what do you think? A little pic on Facebook? A long-winded tweet on Twitter? I’m hoping that by this time next year, those stats will be just a thing of the past.
Do join in and share your #ThankYouMidwife story and don’t forget to tag Pampers on Facebook (@PampersUKIRE) or on Twitter (@Pampers_UK), and #Pampers so we can get as much money as possible donated to the Royal College of Midwives Trust!
This post is sponsored by Pampers